It seems like more and more, the world pushes us toward isolation. We’re working from home, picking up our groceries from car windows, peeking into other people’s lives on social media, watching movies meant for the big screen from the couch, and having dinners dropped off at our front doors. Throw in a night of watching the news, and it’s no wonder we can find ourselves wary of strangers.
But the fact remains: humans need humans. We crave community and want to feel seen. We want to leave memorable impressions on the people we interact with, and we all need a helping hand from time to time. These desires require us to be a bit more present, even if our lives are set up to be tremendously self‑sufficient. We can still choose to go to the movie theater, the restaurant, or the grocery store and talk to the person in line, the server, the cashier, or the person at the bar. That little exchange with a stranger can go a long way and just might be the dose of human connection we’re lacking these days.
Read the positive impressions that strangers—or people outside their close circles—left on these sisters.
The Compliment That Changed How I Saw Myself
I had finally decided that I wasn’t going to keep a regular schedule of dyeing my hair. This didn’t mean I wasn’t a bit self‑conscious at first, until a stranger told me in passing that he liked my “salt‑and‑pepper look.” It was very reaffirming for me.
Rhonda McGee, 63, Little Rock, AR
The Job I Didn’t Know Was Looking for Me
Someone invited me to interview for a job that I didn’t apply for, in an industry I had zero experience in, simply because we had briefly worked in the same office in the past. They remembered me when they took over a startup’s operations. I went to the interview just to be polite and ended up getting the job. It was the first time I’d ever been recruited for a position.
NaKeesa Marie, 51, Tacoma, WA
A Real Village Moment
When we first moved to Texas in 2007, I was starting a new job on Monday and had no childcare for my five children, who ranged in age from 10 to 2. I was panicking. My husband and I didn’t know anyone in Dallas when we uprooted our lives and moved there.
So, the Saturday before I started my new job, I saw a girl in Walmart who looked friendly. I walked up to her and said, “I know this is going to sound a little crazy, because you don’t know me, but I’m desperate. Do you know anyone who will babysit five children?” She smiled and said, “My mama babysits.”
This girl took my husband and me to her mother’s home and introduced us. Her mom, Miss Janice, watched all five of my kids that summer for $350 a week. Miss Janice also babysat her grandchildren, who lived across the street. My children were well fed and cared for by a total stranger, and it was the kindest thing anyone had ever done for me. It was a true village moment.
Tiffany Warren, 51, Frederick, MD